[3.5] bpo-30523, bpo-30764, bpo-30776: Sync regrtest from master (#2442)

[3.5] bpo-30523, bpo-30764, bpo-30776: Sync regrtest from master (#2442)

* bpo-30523: regrtest --list-cases --match (#2401)

* regrtest --list-cases now supports --match and --match-file options.
  Example: ./python -m test --list-cases -m FileTests test_os
* --list-cases now also sets support.verbose to False to prevent
  messages to stdout when loading test modules.
* Add support._match_test() private function.
(cherry picked from commit ace56d583664f855d89d1219ece7c21c2fddcf30)

* bpo-30764: regrtest: add --fail-env-changed option (#2402)

* bpo-30764: regrtest: change exit code on failure

* Exit code 2 if failed tests ("bad")
* Exit code 3 if interrupted

* bpo-30764: regrtest: add --fail-env-changed option

If the option is set, mark a test as failed if it alters the
environment, for example if it creates a file without removing it.

(cherry picked from commit 63f54c68936d648c70ca411661e4208329edcf26)

* bpo-30776: reduce regrtest -R false positives (#2422)

* Change the regrtest --huntrleaks checker to decide if a test file
  leaks or not. Require that each run leaks at least 1 reference.
* Warmup runs are now completely ignored: ignored in the checker test
  and not used anymore to compute the sum.
* Add an unit test for a reference leak.

Example of reference differences previously considered a failure
(leak) and now considered as success (success, no leak):

    [3, 0, 0]
    [0, 1, 0]
    [8, -8, 1]
(cherry picked from commit 48b5c422ffb03affb00c184b9a99e5537be92732)