Disabled resilver_defer feature leads to looping resilvers

Disabled resilver_defer feature leads to looping resilvers

When a disk is replaced with another on a pool with the resilver_defer
feature present, but not enabled the resilver activity restarts during
each spa_sync. This patch checks to make sure that the resilver_defer
feature is first enabled before requesting a deferred resilver.

This was originally fixed in illumos-joyent as OS-7982.

Reviewed-by: Chris Dunlop <chris@onthe.net.au>
Reviewed-by: George Melikov <mail@gmelikov.ru>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Tom Caputi <tcaputi@datto.com>
Reviewed by: Jerry Jelinek <jerry.jelinek@joyent.com>
Signed-off-by: Kody A Kantor <kody@kkantor.com>
External-issue: illumos-joyent OS-7982
Closes #9299
Closes #9338