Fix planner crash from pfree'ing a partial path that a GatherPath uses.
We mustn't run generate_gather_paths() during add_paths_to_joinrel(),
because that function can be invoked multiple times for the same target
joinrel. Not only is it wasteful to build GatherPaths repeatedly, but
a later add_partial_path() could delete the partial path that a previously
created GatherPath depends on. Instead establish the convention that we
do generate_gather_paths() for a rel only just before set_cheapest().
The code was accidentally not broken for baserels, because as of today there
never is more than one partial path for a baserel. But that assumption
obviously has a pretty short half-life, so move the generate_gather_paths()
calls for those cases as well.
Also add some generic comments explaining how and why this all works.