Fix lockdep recursive locking false positive in dbuf_destroy

Fix lockdep recursive locking false positive in dbuf_destroy

lockdep reports a possible recursive lock in dbuf_destroy.

It is true that dbuf_destroy is acquiring the dn_dbufs_mtx
on one dnode while holding it on another dnode.  However,
it is impossible for these to be the same dnode because,
among other things,dbuf_destroy checks MUTEX_HELD before
acquiring the mutex.

This fix defines a class NESTED_SINGLE == 1 and changes
that lock to call mutex_enter_nested with a subclass of
NESTED_SINGLE.

In order to make the userspace code compile,
include/sys/zfs_context.h now defines mutex_enter_nested and
NESTED_SINGLE.

This is the lockdep report:

[  122.950921] ============================================
[  122.950921] WARNING: possible recursive locking detected
[  122.950921] 4.19.29-4.19.0-debug-d69edad5368c1166 #1 Tainted: G           O
[  122.950921] --------------------------------------------
[  122.950921] dbu_evict/1457 is trying to acquire lock:
[  122.950921] 0000000083e9cbcf (&dn->dn_dbufs_mtx){+.+.}, at: dbuf_destroy+0x3c0/0xdb0 [zfs]
[  122.950921]
               but task is already holding lock:
[  122.950921] 0000000055523987 (&dn->dn_dbufs_mtx){+.+.}, at: dnode_evict_dbufs+0x90/0x740 [zfs]
[  122.950921]
               other info that might help us debug this:
[  122.950921]  Possible unsafe locking scenario:

[  122.950921]        CPU0
[  122.950921]        ----
[  122.950921]   lock(&dn->dn_dbufs_mtx);
[  122.950921]   lock(&dn->dn_dbufs_mtx);
[  122.950921]
                *** DEADLOCK ***

[  122.950921]  May be due to missing lock nesting notation

[  122.950921] 1 lock held by dbu_evict/1457:
[  122.950921]  #0: 0000000055523987 (&dn->dn_dbufs_mtx){+.+.}, at: dnode_evict_dbufs+0x90/0x740 [zfs]
[  122.950921]
               stack backtrace:
[  122.950921] CPU: 0 PID: 1457 Comm: dbu_evict Tainted: G           O      4.19.29-4.19.0-debug-d69edad5368c1166 #1
[  122.950921] Hardware name: Supermicro H8SSL-I2/H8SSL-I2, BIOS 080011  03/13/2009
[  122.950921] Call Trace:
[  122.950921]  dump_stack+0x91/0xeb
[  122.950921]  __lock_acquire+0x2ca7/0x4f10
[  122.950921]  lock_acquire+0x153/0x330
[  122.950921]  dbuf_destroy+0x3c0/0xdb0 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  dbuf_evict_one+0x1cc/0x3d0 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  dbuf_rele_and_unlock+0xb84/0xd60 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  dnode_evict_dbufs+0x3a6/0x740 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  dmu_objset_evict+0x7a/0x500 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  dsl_dataset_evict_async+0x70/0x480 [zfs]
[  122.950921]  taskq_thread+0x979/0x1480 [spl]
[  122.950921]  kthread+0x2e7/0x3e0
[  122.950921]  ret_from_fork+0x27/0x50

Reviewed-by: Tony Hutter <hutter2@llnl.gov>
Reviewed-by: Brian Behlendorf <behlendorf1@llnl.gov>
Signed-off-by: Jeff Dike <jdike@akamai.com>
Closes #8984