Fix backup canceling

Fix backup canceling

Assert-enabled build crashes but without asserts it works by wrong way:
it may not reset forcing full page write and preventing from starting
exclusive backup with the same name as cancelled.
Patch replaces pair of booleans
nonexclusive_backup_running/exclusive_backup_running to single enum to
correctly describe backup state.

Backpatch to 9.6 where bug was introduced

Reported-by: David Steele
Authors: Michael Paquier, David Steele
Reviewed-by: Anastasia Lubennikova
https://commitfest.postgresql.org/13/1068/