bpo-31429: Define TLS cipher suite on build time (#3532)

bpo-31429: Define TLS cipher suite on build time (#3532)

Until now Python used a hard coded white list of default TLS cipher
suites. The old approach has multiple downsides. OpenSSL's default
selection was completely overruled. Python did neither benefit from new
cipher suites (ChaCha20, TLS 1.3 suites) nor blacklisted cipher suites.
For example we used to re-enable 3DES.

Python now defaults to OpenSSL DEFAULT cipher suite selection and black
lists all unwanted ciphers. Downstream vendors can override the default
cipher list with --with-ssl-default-suites.

Signed-off-by: Christian Heimes <christian@python.org>