Add "active later" event_callbacks to supersede deferred

Add "active later" event_callbacks to supersede deferred

An event or event callback can now be in an additional state: "active
later".  When an event is in this state, it will become active the
next time we run through the event loop.  This lets us do what we
wanted to with deferred callbacks: make a type of active thing that
avoids infinite circular regress in a way that starves other events or
exhausts the stack.  It improves on deferred callbacks by respecting
priorities, and by having a non-kludgy way to avoid event starvation.