Fix failure to account for memory used by tuplestore_putvalues().
This oversight could result in a tuplestore using much more than the
intended amount of memory. It would only happen in a code path that loaded
a tuplestore via tuplestore_putvalues(), and many of those won't emit huge
amounts of data; but cases such as holdable cursors and plpgsql's RETURN
NEXT command could have the problem. The fix ensures that the tuplestore
will switch to write-to-disk mode when it overruns work_mem.
The potential overrun was finite, because we would still count the space
used by the tuple pointer array, so the tuplestore code would eventually
flip into write-to-disk mode anyway. When storing wide tuples we would
go far past the expected work_mem usage before that happened; but this
may account for the lack of prior reports.
Back-patch to 8.4, where tuplestore_putvalues was introduced.