bpo-37140: Fix StructUnionType_paramfunc() (GH-15612)

bpo-37140: Fix StructUnionType_paramfunc() (GH-15612)

Fix a ctypes regression of Python 3.8. When a ctypes.Structure is
passed by copy to a function, ctypes internals created a temporary
object which had the side effect of calling the structure finalizer
(__del__) twice. The Python semantics requires a finalizer to be
called exactly once. Fix ctypes internals to no longer call the
finalizer twice.

Create a new internal StructParam_Type which is only used by
_ctypes_callproc() to call PyMem_Free(ptr) on Py_DECREF(argument).
StructUnionType_paramfunc() creates such object.
(cherry picked from commit 96b4087ce784ee7434dffdf69c475f5b40543982)

Co-authored-by: Victor Stinner <vstinner@redhat.com>