multi: make sure 'data' can present in several sockhash entries

multi: make sure 'data' can present in several sockhash entries

Since more than one socket can be used by each transfer at a given time,
each sockhash entry how has its own hash table with transfers using that
socket.

In addition, the sockhash entry can now be marked 'blocked = TRUE'"
which then makes the delete function just set 'removed = TRUE' instead
of removing it "for real", as a way to not rip out the carpet under the
feet of a parent function that iterates over the transfers of that same
sockhash entry.

Reported-by: Tom van der Woerdt
Fixes #3961
Fixes #3986
Fixes #3995
Fixes #4004
Closes #3997